I drafted my 43 Things based upon a goal-drafting concept (see: book) that outlines an approach to creating 43 life goals. These are my 43 Things:
1. Listen to my inner child
2. Learn a 3rd language
3. Take an African Safari
4. Start a non-profit organization
5. Repair my bad credit
6. Practice mindfulness every day
7. Take a yoga class
8. Can my own fruits and vegetables
9. Overcome my high blood pressure
10. Write love letters for my love
11. Learn to play the piano
12. Take singing lessons
13. Lower my BMI by 25%
14. Love myself no matter what my mother says
15. Respect myself even when others don't
16. Never work a job I hate
17. Stop worrying about the things I cannot control
18. Reconnect with my Higher Power
19. Trust more people
20. Hug at least one tree per week
21. Develop the ability to say "NO"
22. Attend more community events
23. Read at least 10 books a year
24. Write at least 5 stories a year
25. Practice "passing it forward" with all creatures
26. Own a collection of Dr. Seuss books
27. Pick up and fold my clothes every day
28. Spend at least two quality vacations a year with Whitney -- just us
29. Submit my writing for publishing at places I think would never publish me
30. Vacation in Europe, Australia, and Central America
31. Cut my hair super short
32. Buy at least 5 acres of property
33. Have an "off-the-grid" self sustaining house
34. Take a belly dancing class
35. Have a best selling novel
36. Adopt a Deaf child
37. Finish my memoirs
38. Hitchhike across the state with only a backpack of my belongings
39. Build a straw bale house
40. Get a Master's Degree
41. Go para gliding
42. Live and grow a family farm
43. Learn and practice radical acceptance
Friday, August 6, 2010
Timing
So I'm throwing it out there to the universe that we need a trailer. A trailer that will meet our needs at the right price and in the right condition. I'm going to think positive and just go with the flow for now -- stop trying so hard to force situations and just let it be, see what will come my way. Happy thoughts for happy trailers!
Thursday, August 5, 2010
Third prospective trailer
This one I am really excited about. It's pretty vintage-y and with some work it'd be hawt. Plus it has new tires plus a spare included. Pretty much solid bones and foundation so all the "pretty" stuff can be worked on over the next year. I've got $300 cash I can throw down to hold it until Friday -- PAY DAY! This one is $700 but if its in the condition it states, would be well worth it.
Second prospective trailer
So, that first trailer is gone like a fart in the wind. And by fart I mean the squishy, wet, did-I-really-just-crap-myself, farts and by wind I mean "HOLD ON AUNTIE EM, IT'S A TWISTA!"
Right. I never promised GOOD analogies.
So the first one fell through but I have two good prospects I'm looking at tomorrow. Granted, they are a bit more expensive but at least they are local so I won't have to drive almost 2 hours just to look at them. Some pictures.
Right. I never promised GOOD analogies.
So the first one fell through but I have two good prospects I'm looking at tomorrow. Granted, they are a bit more expensive but at least they are local so I won't have to drive almost 2 hours just to look at them. Some pictures.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Prospective Trailer #1
So the hunt BEGINS! Prospect one was located on craigslist and we might be making the trek up to Marysville on Wednesday to see it. Price is DEFINITELY right at $350 and with a little polish I think it is a good possibility. Thoughts?
Monday, August 2, 2010
The Plan
So, as I was driving down the road I saw a cool vintage trailer and commented on its coolness. My brother agreed and we mentioned how my mother had always wanted to get a trailer and travel the country with it. Then I thought to myself -- why not? All this time I've spent doing school, doing work, doing all the things that I'm -supposed- to be doing and frankly, I'm friggin' miserable. I can't get a grip on my family problems, me problems, and as a result I'm not doing ANY of the things I love (ie, writing, traveling, etc) I think I might have gone about things ass backwards. Luckily, my lovely, amazing, vivacious fiancée is crazy enough to take a chance with me and so we're going to do it.
June 26th, 2011: Wedding
June 27th, 2011: The adventure begins.
We are going to buy a trailer or a modest motor home and take off for a while. We're going to go see all the places we've never seen and never been. Whitney has a stable source of income that if we're frugal and if we save enough money over the next year we can definitely stretch out for a span of time. I don't know how long but we've agreed we'll do it as long as we're still having fun. Because as much as we want the farm, the house, the anchor in our lives, we both acknowledge that once all those things happen, we're not going to get the opportunity to do crazy, ill-conceived things such as this. Yes, it will be hard and yes, there's some concessions and sacrifices we will have to make to live such a life but I think that after its all said and done, it will be quite the experience and we'll both learn a lot about ourselves and each other. And what more could you ask of a honeymoon??? :-D
June 26th, 2011: Wedding
June 27th, 2011: The adventure begins.
We are going to buy a trailer or a modest motor home and take off for a while. We're going to go see all the places we've never seen and never been. Whitney has a stable source of income that if we're frugal and if we save enough money over the next year we can definitely stretch out for a span of time. I don't know how long but we've agreed we'll do it as long as we're still having fun. Because as much as we want the farm, the house, the anchor in our lives, we both acknowledge that once all those things happen, we're not going to get the opportunity to do crazy, ill-conceived things such as this. Yes, it will be hard and yes, there's some concessions and sacrifices we will have to make to live such a life but I think that after its all said and done, it will be quite the experience and we'll both learn a lot about ourselves and each other. And what more could you ask of a honeymoon??? :-D
Sunday, August 1, 2010
"Pre-Life Burnout" you say???
Today might be the day I will look back on and realize it is the day I decided to save my own life.
As I've thought back over the past year and it's many frustrations, challenges, and disappointments, I am developing an increasing awareness that a great many of these things have happened because I have allowed them -- inadvertently perhaps, indirectly sure -- but permissive stance has led to this spiraling black hole of internal oppression. And the buck stops here.
I have chosen "pre-life burnout" as the phrase to describe what I believe to be the transition between my "for others" phase of life to my "for myself" phase of life. And I would hate to give the impression that I am implying that I have been a give-all person with no bouts of selfishness or callousness towards the needs of others. No -- rather, most of my life has been fueled by a desire to "fix" the things around me and feeling that all my efforts are not enough. For all the things I have tried to fix, there is an equal portion of self-death that has occured. Trying to fix my mother's life led to the death of my own, trying to fix friendships led to my inability to have them, trying to fix my financial situation led to continued accrual of debt, and so on.
And where does the "pre-life" bit come in? Because I really haven't even begun to live my life! I just finished up my degree at The Evergreen State College and landed a full-time "careery" type of job and am now at the beginning of my adult living. And I'm already burnt out, fried to a crisp, roadkill on a July afternoon in Death Valley. I'm done.
A therapist once referred to this as "over-achiever syndrome" in that I spent so much of my adolescence fucking up all over the map that I've become obsessed in my young adult life with trying to rectify and in essence, make up, for all the bad things I've done. With little success. And it's only getting worse the more and more I seem to achieve, the more I feel I haven't done enough.
So I have a plan.
As I've thought back over the past year and it's many frustrations, challenges, and disappointments, I am developing an increasing awareness that a great many of these things have happened because I have allowed them -- inadvertently perhaps, indirectly sure -- but permissive stance has led to this spiraling black hole of internal oppression. And the buck stops here.
I have chosen "pre-life burnout" as the phrase to describe what I believe to be the transition between my "for others" phase of life to my "for myself" phase of life. And I would hate to give the impression that I am implying that I have been a give-all person with no bouts of selfishness or callousness towards the needs of others. No -- rather, most of my life has been fueled by a desire to "fix" the things around me and feeling that all my efforts are not enough. For all the things I have tried to fix, there is an equal portion of self-death that has occured. Trying to fix my mother's life led to the death of my own, trying to fix friendships led to my inability to have them, trying to fix my financial situation led to continued accrual of debt, and so on.
And where does the "pre-life" bit come in? Because I really haven't even begun to live my life! I just finished up my degree at The Evergreen State College and landed a full-time "careery" type of job and am now at the beginning of my adult living. And I'm already burnt out, fried to a crisp, roadkill on a July afternoon in Death Valley. I'm done.
A therapist once referred to this as "over-achiever syndrome" in that I spent so much of my adolescence fucking up all over the map that I've become obsessed in my young adult life with trying to rectify and in essence, make up, for all the bad things I've done. With little success. And it's only getting worse the more and more I seem to achieve, the more I feel I haven't done enough.
So I have a plan.
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